I was rushing out of the office to pick up my two young children from day care when I ran into a senior colleague in the hallway. They wanted to chat about a proposal I was working on and how I was settling into my new tenure-track position. I was grateful for their interest and collegiality, and I didn’t want them to think I wasn’t giving the job my full attention. So, I acted as if I had all the time in the world. I didn’t mention where I was headed, or that I had a kids’ pickup deadline. I barely made it. …